Exploring a new kink with your partner is not only exciting, but it’s also a way for you to form a deeper connection too. This being said, the excitement doesn’t always override the nerves. If you’re looking to introduce BDSM toys to the bedroom but aren’t quite sure on the ins and outs, LoveKinx have got you covered!
What is BDSM?
BDSM stands for Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, and Masochism. The term spans a wide range of sexual practices that centre around domination and roleplaying. Typically, one half of a couple is known as the ‘submissive’ or ‘sub’, while the other is the ‘dominant’ or ‘dom’.
BDSM is all about trust and for the sub, feeling vulnerable. It also involves consensually surrendering control. In order to practise BDSM safely, you should speak with your sexual partner(s) about their boundaries. If you’re trying it for the first time, you should check in with each other at various stages to make sure you’re both still comfortable.
Who Can Enjoy BDSM?
Anyone can enjoy BDSM, in fact, research shows that over 80% of adults say they have tried at least one element of BDSM.
BDSM covers a wide spectrum of fantasies. Some couples enjoy the ‘tamer’ side of things such as light bondage and spanking, while others like more extreme activities such as being restrained and power play. There is no right or wrong and some people may only enjoy one or two elements of BDSM. The best part about this niche is that you and your partner make the rules!
Different Types of BDSM Toys
If this is your first experience with BDSM and you’re still exploring whether it’s for you, it’s always best to ease yourself in slowly. Below are 5 beginner friendly sex toys for you to experiment with on your next date night…
Blindfolds
Wearing a blindfold is a great way to play into your other senses. Taking away your sight means other sensations will be heightened, such as touch, smell, taste, and sound. When paired with the anticipation that comes with being blindfolded, the combination can really intensify intimacy.
Being blindfolded also requires trust between you and your sexual partner. Allowing yourself to feel vulnerable can be a huge turn on for both the dom and sub (you’ll notice this is a common theme within this blog!)
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Paddles & Floggers
Pain is a widely adored fetish and plays a key role in BDSM. People enjoy varying degrees of pain, however, so it’s important you find your threshold and your partner respects your boundaries. This could vary from light spanking, to using BDSM toys such as paddles and floggers.
It’s important to practise BDSM, particularly the pain element, with someone you trust. Some people enjoy a light stinging pain, while others fantasize about being left with physical marks. We always recommend starting more slowly and building your way up to a level that you’re comfortable with.
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Rope & Restraints
A huge part of BDSM is control, and using handcuffs or bondage rope is a good way to start introducing these practises into the bedroom. Handing over the power to your significant other can be thrilling, as people often enjoy the feeling of being vulnerable. Once you’re comfortable with rope, you can even level things up and try bed restraints or a sex swing too.
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Nipple Clamps
Similar to using a paddle, wearing nipple clamps brings with it the combination of pain and pleasure. Lots of people, particularly women, find their nipples to be a highly sensitive area and using BDSM toys like clamps can heighten this sensation. They can also symbolise submission and control, particularly if the dom is putting them on their submissive.
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Ball Gag
A ball gag limits speech, which shifts focus to nonverbal cues and creates a sense of vulnerability. Wearing a gag of any variety can symbolise submission and giving up control. This can also cause mild discomfort, which as we mentioned earlier, is a common turn-on for people who enjoy BDSM.
If you’re keen to experiment with being gagged (or gagging your s/o) but a ball gag is a step too far for you at this stage, there are other types you can try first. An over the mouth gag might be a good place to start.
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Time for a Shopping Spree!
Ready to spice up your next date night? Whether you’re looking for beginner-friendly or advanced kit, LoveKinx has got you covered with our wide range of BDSM toys. Just click here to start shopping!